Saturday, February 28, 2015

Snow Day

It's Saturday night. Walter and Goofy went to their dad's house for the weekend. I'm home with Alex, and we are blessedly snowed in. This pretty much sums up the mood tonight...

Did I mention that Goofy caught a cat? He did. Well, I did the second time because he was super pissed that I *accidentally* let her out while he was at his dad's for using my bed as a litter box. It may not have annoyed me so much that I would *accidentally* shove her out the door if I hadn't known for a fact she knew exactly where the litter box was from when she squatted in my lap the night before. That's her, up there. She's using the litter box now.

Walter keeps trying to name her. Trying out different names. His favorite so far is Amy. I refuse to name her. If you name it, you have to keep it and I'm still hoping she belongs to someone else. True, she was filthy and matted and starving, but maybe she just has crappy owners. One thing she desperately needs is to be fixed. I'm getting tired of the howling. Can you get in trouble for spaying someone else's cat?

Anyway, this snow storm came at a very good time. I need the break. I requested an IEP meeting for Goofy. The third one in three months.

First was the regular IEP stuff that happens when you change schools- that went well enough except he wasn't getting help with reading.

The second was to get help with reading. I don't know if I told you about that one, but it was decided that his reading trouble was ADHD related and would be addressed in the resource room during the time they work on task related skills, and his tracking and convergence problems would be addressed in occupational therapy. 

This time, we are discussing transportation as a related service. I can't do anything about the other kids. I can ask for more focus on character education, but I don't know that it would get anywhere. South of the Hwy 141 line, character education just isn't a big deal. Sports teams are. So, I can try, but it's a long shot and not going to solve our current problem. What will solve our current problem is a lot of hard work documenting and proving a need.

That's the tricky part of getting services. You, as the parent, can't just say there's a need, you have to prove it. Document everything. If there is one thing you need to know, it's that if it's not in writing, it never happened. Get as much as you can in writing. Use all of your resources- the school, your doctors, therapists, etc. Professionals carry more weight than parents, and the school can't argue with their own words. E-mail is your friend. If you don't already know how to use it, please learn. Get comfortable. Learn to be clear, specific, and direct. And don't underestimate the power of playing dumb. Ask questions, even if you already know the answer, because if it's not in writing, it never happened.

Yesterday, I left off waiting to hear back from Goofy's psychiatrist, professional counselor, and bus driver to provide documentation to help prove that Goofy needs transportation as a related service. Today, a snow storm has provided a relief. My entire world has come to a stop for just one weekend. A much needed break, where the hardest task I have to perform is to make a cup of hot chocolate and start a new recorded TV show.

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