Funny, I expected the Goofy one to be the one I lost sleep over this year. Instead, I've already talked to his principal, heard back from his teacher, and am confident that we have a solid plan that will work. Alex, on the other hand.... *sigh*
I know I said that I would give his principal a chance, that I would stop and breathe and try to understand but I'm nothing if not fickle, ya know. Laying in my bed, tossing and turning, tormented by the past, taunted by the future... it dawns on me that that's just stupid.
Alex has been in this school for 2 years. 2 years.
Teacher #1- I don't know why Alex was pulled out of her class 1/2 way through the year and based on what's coming, I don't know that I could handle the real answer because Alex is so not independent. After he moved, he went back for a day and this...
|all of you who guessed ringworm? Wrong. Bite mark. |
and the staff is shocked. They didn't see it happen.
Teacher #2- was amazing. but even so, Alex was attacked on the way back from recess. His 9 year old body battered, his flesh torn, his heart broken by a teenager in the middle of a meltdown.
Teacher #3- Summer school. 3 weeks, 4 days/week, from 8am-12pm. Didn't realize it was her job to supervise the staff in her room. Alex came home without a diaper because the aide said he thought Alex could change himself.
Teacher #4- His behaviors were out of control, according to them. His dropping to the floor making him a danger to himself and staff as they tried to catch him...a BIP no-no. The solution was not to follow the behavior intervention plan but to use a gait belt and not take no for an answer until they pushed and pushed until I went up there to show them exactly why a gait belt was inappropriate and they'd do much better following the interventions listed in his plan... and his behaviors miraculously disappeared overnight.
Teacher #4 part 2- his aide vanished halfway through the year. and then this...
|The oh, so professional answer to this one? |
"We don't know."
Why is it again that I need to just breathe? To relax? To trust these trained and highly qualified people to do their jobs? or the person who chooses which of these trained and highly qualified people to team with my defenseless, non-verbal child? and, this makes sense... how?
I have a right to be angry.
The constant change in staff puts Alex in an extremely vulnerable position. The constant changing of staff is causing an increase in undesirable behaviors at school and at home for the several months it takes Alex to adjust. He doesn't know them. They don't know him. This limits his already severely limited ability to communicate his wants and needs. They do not know him- his patterns, his behaviors, how to read him... which increases the undesirable behavior because all behavior is communication, remember?
The constant changing of staff is detrimental to Alex's ability to make real progress. Alex is not making progress. He's regressing with the change and then making progress only as far as he was at the end of the last year.
I hear there's an autism-specific school in our district. maybe it's time to consider a change in placement.