Monday, December 31, 2012

New Year, New Resolutions.

It's New Year's Eve and I am excited! That means it that time again! New Year's Resolutions. I love it. This might be my favorite holiday because it's all about dreams. goals. follow through. all very important things. This year, I'm taking a new approach to making resolutions. Usually, I try to improve on my job performance as a mother, this year, the kids can make do with the mother they have and my only goal as far as parenting is to not sell the little jerks on e-bay. I do have some wishes for them that I gave to the crumb diaries for her post Our 2013 Wishes... but my focus isn't on them. It's on me.

I'm hoping the boys learn from watching. I'm hoping when the time comes for them to figure out how to raise their kids and take care of their families that they remember to do for themselves, too. Flight attendants will tell you to put the oxygen mask on yourself before trying to help others and there's a good reason for that. If you don't take care of yourself first, you aren't going to be in any shape to take care of anyone else. How much good will you be to your child if you crash and burn? Do you know your child will imitate you in their own relationships? Do you want them to take on so much stress and pressure that they crash and burn because they didn't want to be so "selfish" as to meet their own needs? And, how can I shove socialization down their little throats if I don't do it myself? Lead by example, right?

Children aside, I deserve to be happy with my life. with my friends. with my husband. with my children. I deserve to have a bit of fun with them. I planted the seeds, harvested the wheat, ground the flour, and baked the bread. I did all of the work and I'm going to eat the bread. Isn't that the purpose in the work?

So, my resolution for this year is to be a little more selfish. to take more time for me. to do the things I like to do. to win friends and influence people ;)

8 comments:

  1. Awesome!! I don't make resolutions because I am dreadful at keeping them. I hate to fail, so I don't allow myself to walk down that plank. Enjoy 2013 and I will see you at Laughter, Could be the Missing Piece!!!

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    1. Don't think of it as being for a full year! It's just for today. and every morning, "today" just happens to be that day, too.

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  2. I would sell mine, but I doubt I would have any takers. They are cute, but seriously high maintenance. Happy new year, you could use a little "selfish"!

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    1. It's all about marketing, honey.

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  3. That's a great resolution! Makes me think!

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  4. I love it!!! My goal for the year is to get a reliable car so that I can drive around the country visiting my family. And now I'm totally going to add visiting you to that list, so that you can be selfish and go for coffee and dancing with me!!!!

    Notice how I didn't ask if you want to hang out with me, or even if you like dancing? See!? I'm learning to be selfish too!!!!

    Happy new year Mac!!!! I adore you!!!!

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    1. I love your selfishness! and I love you!

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